Adventurous couples: going further, safely
Consent, safe words, aftercare and the bondage-lite kit to start with: how adventurous couples go further while keeping it safe and kind. 18+.
Going further is less about the kit and more about trust. Couples who explore kink or BDSM happily tend to have the same habits: they talk first, agree limits, use a safe word and look after each other afterwards. This guide covers those habits, then the bondage-lite kit to start with.
Prices are as listed by the retailers on 8 October 2026; where we haven’t checked a price, we say so. Features come from each retailer’s listing.
Quick picks
Top pickSportsheets Amor Beginner Bondage Kit£37.51 at Sextoys.co.uk · checked 26 Oct 2026Softest restraintSilk Clip-on Restraints (White)100% mulberry silk; £23.99 (was £31.99)Hand over controlAddicted Remote Control Love EggWireless remote, waterproof; £41.24 (was £54.99)AftercarePristine Antibacterial Toy Cleaning SprayAlcohol-free; £7.99We may earn commission from links on this page.
Consent first, every time
Consent is an enthusiastic, ongoing yes from both of you, and either of you can take it back at any moment. Talk before you play, not in the middle of it. Agree what’s on the menu, what’s a maybe and what’s a hard no (your limits), and revisit the list whenever something changes. A good rule: if you’re not sure, stop and ask.
Safe words and signals
A safe word should be unmistakable: a word you’d never say by accident. Many couples use a traffic-light system:
- Green: all good, carry on.
- Amber: slow down or check in.
- Red: stop now, no questions asked.
If speaking might be difficult, agree a signal too, such as three taps or dropping a small object. Respect it instantly, every time.
Bondage-lite kit to start with
Choose soft, adjustable pieces that come off quickly. Restraints and a blindfold make up most first kits; sensation play with a feather or tickler adds contrast. The basics still apply: nothing around the neck, ties loose enough for two fingers, and never leave a restrained partner alone. Ready to explore bondage further? Our bondage hub has more.
1. Sportsheets Amor Beginner Bondage Kit
A starter set for slow, consensual play, with satin restraints, a satin blindfold and fuzzy nipple clamps.
- Best for
- Versatile, gentle first kit
- Price
- ££ £37.51 · Price checked 26 Oct 2026
- Satin restraints
- Satin blindfold
- Fuzzy nipple clamps
Pros
- Several sensations in one box
- Soft satin pieces
Cons
- Take clamps off after a short time and check in often
2. Ouch! Introductory Bondage Kit #1
A starter set for slow, consensual power play: furry-lined metal cuffs, a satin mask and a small flogger.
- Best for
- A first step into restraint
- Price
- ££ £20.26 · Price checked 26 Oct 2026
- Furry-lined metal cuffs
- Satin mask
- Flogger
Pros
- Three pieces in one box
- Soft fur lining on the cuffs
Cons
- Metal cuffs: agree a safe word and keep the key close
3. Silk Clip-on Restraints (White)
Clip-on restraints in 100% mulberry silk for wrists or ankles, or as a blindfold. The retailer reminds you to agree consent, boundaries and safe words first, and so do we.
- Best for
- The softest restraint on this list
- Price
- ££ £23.99 (was £31.99) · Price checked 26 Oct 2026
- 100% mulberry silk
- Clip-on design
- Hands, feet or blindfold
Pros
- Silk against the skin
- Also in black and pink
Cons
- White shows marks more than black
4. Addicted Remote Control Love Egg
A love egg with a wireless remote: one partner wears it, the other chooses from three speeds and seven patterns. The retailer lists it as waterproof and rechargeable.
- Best for
- Couples who enjoy handing over control
- Price
- ££ £41.24 (was £54.99) · Price checked 26 Oct 2026
- Wireless remote
- 3 speeds, 7 patterns
- Waterproof, rechargeable
Pros
- Made for power-play games
- Waterproof
Cons
- A bigger spend: try the £29.99 Pearl egg first if you’re unsure
Aftercare: the part that makes it work
Aftercare is how you look after each other once play ends. It can be as simple as a blanket, a glass of water, a cuddle and a few kind words. Some people want closeness, others want a little space; ask. The next day, chat about what you loved and what you’d change. Clean and dry your kit before you put it away; a toy cleaner makes that quick.
5. Pristine Antibacterial Toy Cleaning Spray
An alcohol-free cleaning spray that the retailer lists as suitable for all sex toys: spritz after use and wipe.
- Best for
- Packing the kit away clean
- Price
- £ £7.99
- Alcohol-free
- Suitable for all sex toys, per the listing
- Spray and wipe
Pros
- Under £8
- Quick to use
Cons
- Follow each toy’s own care instructions too
6. Water-based Lubricant 250ml
The larger bottle of So Divine’s vegan-friendly, non-sticky water-based lube, listed as safe with toys and latex condoms.
- Best for
- Comfort, before and after
- Price
- £ £12.99
- 250ml
- Water-based, vegan-friendly
- Toy- and latex-condom-safe, per the listing
Pros
- Better value than the 100ml
- Works with everything here
Cons
- May need topping up during longer sessions
Compare at a glance
Compare at a glance
| Product | Best for | Price | Key spec | Shop |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Sportsheets Amor Beginner Bondage Kit | Versatile, gentle first kit | £37.51 | Satin restraints | Shop at Sextoys.co.uk |
| Ouch! Introductory Bondage Kit #1 | A first step into restraint | £20.26 | Furry-lined metal cuffs | Shop at Sextoys.co.uk |
| Silk Clip-on Restraints (White) | The softest restraint on this list | £23.99 (was £31.99) | 100% mulberry silk | Shop at So Divine |
| Addicted Remote Control Love Egg | Couples who enjoy handing over control | £41.24 (was £54.99) | Wireless remote | Shop at So Divine |
| Pristine Antibacterial Toy Cleaning Spray | Packing the kit away clean | £7.99 | Alcohol-free | Shop at So Divine |
| Water-based Lubricant 250ml | Comfort, before and after | £12.99 | 250ml | Shop at So Divine |
The couples path
Three gentle steps, at your own pace. Skip ahead, go back, or stay where you’re happy.
Also on our shortlists
- Bondage-lite starters: silk ties, soft blindfolds, slow tease.
- Lube & aftercare and healthy sexual relationships.
- Conversation starters for agreeing limits and checking in afterwards.
Going-further questions
What is a safe word?
A word you’d never say by accident that means stop now, no questions asked. Many couples use a traffic-light system: green to carry on, amber to slow down or check in, red to stop.
What is aftercare?
How you look after each other once play ends: a blanket, water, closeness or a little space, and a chat the next day about what you loved and what you’d change.
What bondage kit should adventurous beginners buy?
Soft, adjustable pieces that come off quickly: a blindfold and silk or satin ties. Lovehoney’s Sensation Play kit and So Divine’s mulberry silk restraints (£32) are good starting points.
Adventurous and kind go together. Back to the start: Couples. 18+ only.
